A Day In the Life

Right now I am off for the summer and the Mr. has started a second-third shift job (it’s supposed to be 8 hours but routinely lasts 10+) resulting in him not getting  home until the wee hours of the morning and thus making me parent numero uno Monday through Friday because he’s sleeping usually until damn near nap time and then is gone by the time dinner, bath and bed and I’ve noticed a few things about myself in this new daily schedule:


6:30a – 7:00a: the Munchkin starts to stir, babbles in her crib most likely to her flowered hippopotamus Katie until she’s decided she’s had enough then starts screaming

so it begins

7:00a – 7:30a: Convince the Munchkin to get out of the crib after she’s done yelling at the dog who came in to investigate.

7:30a – 8:00a: Breakfast, I attempt to make something that resembles varied and healthy for the two of us and it usually results in the Munchkin just wanting to eat whatever I’ve made for myself so other than the coffee she and I share breakfast and generally results in her getting coated in it.  Also feeding the 5 fur children.


8:00a-11:00a: We play either downstairs or in her room subject to the whims of the toddler and her toys.  While she’s entertaining herself sometimes she requires my presence in her court, sometimes she requires my interaction, or I can get away from her tyranny and potentially accomplish something crazy like adulting!  She’s gotten to the point where she doesn’t really require me to entertain her but some days if I attempt to leave her space she does start throwing a hissy fit.  When we’re playing in her room it results in me just reading The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy out loud as she plays with her toys around me.


11:00a-11:30a: Lunch time!  Once again this generally results in us sharing food, but I’ve made an effort to not necessarily make “kid” food to try and encourage her to eat as many different things as possible, so far my plan is working so I guess I’ll stick with it.

12:00p-2:30p: Nap time!  This is my chance to get anything done I want.  I’ve been alternating spending time writing curriculum which has been a huge pain in the ass, straightening up the house, or just being a bum.  I’m glad that we get nap time still!!


3:00p-5:00p: More playing!  If the weather isn’t too bad I try to get outside.  Sometimes I take the dogs and the Munchkin for a walk.

5:00p-6:00p: Dinner prep, eating, feeding the fur children again (why does everyone need to be fed so much?).  Luckily the Munchkin has not entered “picky” toddler stage yet so she eats whatever we eat.  Tonight for example it was Coconut Tofu Curry with vegetables and jasmine rice with a bowl of watermelon for dessert.  She ate with gusto even after having a snack so I’m guessing there is a growth spurt on the horizon.

6:00p-7:00p: Bath if it’s necessary, which during the heat wave it seems like it has been.  Sometimes a little last minute playing in her room and then the bedtime routine. Most nights she falls asleep pretty well and generally sleeps through the night, when she doesn’t there’s usually a good reason for it.

Once she’s down I generally clean up dinner and then do whatever until I feel like going to bed which is usually much later than it should be but I’m a night owl by nature.

I have noticed that being home with the Munchkin during the day has some pros and cons compared to when I’m at work.  I feel like I’m getting more time with her of course but I’m not sure if it’s more quality time than the few hours I would get to see her during the school year.  This trade off of more v. better time is definitely something I’ve been struggling with.  There have definitely been some rough days where she has been a clinger and it’s made it difficult especially because she can’t vocalize her needs just yet (she’s getting better) so I have to play 20 guesses to try and understand why she’s upset and when you’re a toddler everything can send you into a tizzy if it’s not exactly what you want.  Getting used to this new schedule has also been daunting since I have basically no help Monday to Friday with Babci still on vacation and it makes me appreciate the Mr. because he holds up his end of the deal it’s just difficult with this schedule as it right now and we need to work out a better system.  I’m also not one of those very crafty or creative moms and I haven’t made any “wonderful” experiences for her like you tend to see on social media but I’m ok with that because she doesn’t care what we do as long as we do it together and she’s not going to remember anything special I do now anyway!

It’s a lot easier for me to be present during the school year because my time is inherently limited while I’m working all day away from the Munchkin so I am having to work hard at not letting the moments I do have this summer slip away by watching TV or playing on my phone around the Munchkin but as always I’m a mom in progress, because that’s the only kind of mom there is!



Meal Time with Toddlers

One of the greatest (and scariest) things as a parent is watching your child become more independent – except for meal time. There are so many things about toddler meal time that just make it a fun and exciting adventure every time you sit down to the table, whether it’s breakfast, lunch, dinner, or snacks you’re never entirely sure what you’re going to get.  We have been very lucky with my daughter, she is a good eater and has been from start.  She was trying to eat foods at 3 months old….so we let her (that’s what baby lead weaning is all about right?!?!) but that brought a whole new set of challenges to parenthood.  

There are some very interesting things that happen when you allow a child to feed herself and most of it has to do with where the food ends up.  When the Munchkin started getting annoyed with meal time around 10 months we started giving her the spoon/fork to feed herself or just pick it up with her fingers and that’s resulted in finding food in various places, especially when we go to change her for bedtime.  She’s had cheerios in her diaper, yogurt in her eye, peanut butter in her hair, and peas in her ears.  It’s gotten to the point where dinner time almost always ends in a bath now because she attempts to feed herself and it tends to go horribly wrong from an adult standpoint.

She has also become aware of the fact that there are dogs in the house who will conveniently eat anything she drops or throws to them.  As a result of her meddling the dogs have put on a few pounds and for the time being I’m really not sure about what to do about it, because how else would I keep the floors clean if they weren’t around to eat up all the food that falls to the ground or clean her high chair when she’s done?

Lastly, she can’t communicate with words.  She’s saying some words but she’s not reciting the Gettysburg Address just yet.  This makes it difficult to decipher exactly why she isn’t eating something that she ate just fine yesterday.  We’ve been very lucky with the Munchkin, she eats pretty much anything and everything we give her.  She’ll never quite give up on a food, she’ll try it and spit it out multiple times and then you can get her to try it the next day.  I’m hoping this trait sticks around but it can make it difficult to understand why she doesn’t want to eat something, especially when it’s something she’s had multiple times before so this leads to a whole lot of me sounding stupid trying to get to the bottom of it: “Mommy doesn’t understand, does your mouth hurt? Are you not hungry? Do you not like green eggs and ham today?”
If you have ever wondered what it was like to feed a toddler, go look at some abstract art and imagine talking to the Swedish Chef and then I think you’d have some clue of what meal time looks like in our house!